Today I am reaching out to those of the race of Otakus, “ 宅男”.
I am burdened to share my knowledge to them. One can never identify to a certain group unless they are part of them.
Yes, I am with them, for them and part of them. We are a group of kindhearted people (friends, please bear with us for a second, if you love us, vomit later).
We mind our own business and are only interested in our own hobbies. We are happy with our own world.
But things changed, when our hearts tells us that there is this particular girl that we must see everyday, it means us feel happy inwardly and satisfied. This particular gal might be our colleague, our classmate, someone who takes the same bus, or the salesgirl at a particular store. We know we like her because we kept thinking about her everyday. But our feet and our mind will never tell us to approach her. Why?
The Word is fear of Rejection.
Our mind will sabotage us and suddenly skilled in the art of reasoning.
We convinced ourselves with these stupid reasons.
“What if she already has a boyfriend?”
“ Aiyah, she won’t like me one lah”
“ I am not rich”
“ I am not Good looking, I don’t have the looks of brad Pitt, David Beckham, Andy Lau, etc.”
“ I don’t know what to say to her”
“ She is not free to talk “
Does that excuses ring a bell? LOL. Maybe now you suddenly realize that you are expert negotiator and a prophet ( can predict what is going to happen). We convinced ourselves with these assumptions everyday.
FEAR is interpreted as False Evidence Appearing Real.
At this time, I remembered one good thing that I have picked up from my friend,
His name is Joe; he is happily married with an ex-stewardess. Man, he was a Ladies man and a killer during his time. He is confident and never in a situation that will catch him off-guard in the social arena
This, he shared with me. “ BJ, sometimes, you think too much. Remember this thumb of rule: JDI, Just Do it”
Yes, Just do it ! go and talk to her. What’s the Big deal? We wouldn’t die right?
You might ask me how? I really don’t know.
Don’t worry, everyone have a degree of fear , Don't worry we will hold your hands and teach you step by step.
Stay tune for the next update.
With love and respect,
Your fellow otaku brother.
BJ
Thursday, February 26, 2009
Stories
Well, I guess I need to introduce myself slightly
Probably at the back of the mind, one of the questions you are thinking,
Who the heck is this BJ guy?
And why should I be listening to him? Is he weirdo? Nah.
Well, I am BJ here. I am in my 30s, enjoying the time of my life now.
Life begins at 30! For me, I enjoyed my social life whereby it was fruitful and exciting.
I am grateful for those people that built me for where I am today.
The FACT is ….
It didn’t start out like that.
I am not the borne natural or the ladies man. In Fact I was a real goon and a loser in the past. Those type whereby one will stay at home and hog on his RPG
24/7, geek type of guy. Always uneasy about socializing with others’.
I remembered I was not able to hold eye contact with the opposite sex more than 2 seconds. I will either look up or look down. And away.
There was this gal that I was really into at that time. The intensity I would say was crazy. You know, I will just be satisfied to see her from afar.
Walk on the paths she walked and steal glances of her here and there.
But Never dared to walk to her and hold a conversation. To cut the story short,
She fell in love with a Guy; Obviously the Guy is not me. ( awwwww.. If it happens to you also, dun feel bad. Your brudder here knows how you feel also)
But Things Changed after that, I started to meet different persons in my life because of my previous Job with enables me to travel frequently to the states. They contributed their knowledge to since I was so slow and dense concerning the opposite sex.
Well I must thank them of their craps and pranks on me. Mostly importantly their words of wisdom that mould me.
For the next Series, I will list down the plus points of the males I meet that attracts Woman to them like magnet. If you ask them how they managed to do it.
They will give you these answers that you will feel strangling them on the spot.
“Sorry, I Just can’t help it” or “ I dun know man, it just happened”
Is it True to what they say? Yes, they produce results but they are not able to relate to the others how exactly what they did.
We are going to break it down and analyze their strengths. From there, we will absorb it as ours. Good deal huh?
Be patient –
With Best regards,
BJ
Probably at the back of the mind, one of the questions you are thinking,
Who the heck is this BJ guy?
And why should I be listening to him? Is he weirdo? Nah.
Well, I am BJ here. I am in my 30s, enjoying the time of my life now.
Life begins at 30! For me, I enjoyed my social life whereby it was fruitful and exciting.
I am grateful for those people that built me for where I am today.
The FACT is ….
It didn’t start out like that.
I am not the borne natural or the ladies man. In Fact I was a real goon and a loser in the past. Those type whereby one will stay at home and hog on his RPG
24/7, geek type of guy. Always uneasy about socializing with others’.
I remembered I was not able to hold eye contact with the opposite sex more than 2 seconds. I will either look up or look down. And away.
There was this gal that I was really into at that time. The intensity I would say was crazy. You know, I will just be satisfied to see her from afar.
Walk on the paths she walked and steal glances of her here and there.
But Never dared to walk to her and hold a conversation. To cut the story short,
She fell in love with a Guy; Obviously the Guy is not me. ( awwwww.. If it happens to you also, dun feel bad. Your brudder here knows how you feel also)
But Things Changed after that, I started to meet different persons in my life because of my previous Job with enables me to travel frequently to the states. They contributed their knowledge to since I was so slow and dense concerning the opposite sex.
Well I must thank them of their craps and pranks on me. Mostly importantly their words of wisdom that mould me.
For the next Series, I will list down the plus points of the males I meet that attracts Woman to them like magnet. If you ask them how they managed to do it.
They will give you these answers that you will feel strangling them on the spot.
“Sorry, I Just can’t help it” or “ I dun know man, it just happened”
Is it True to what they say? Yes, they produce results but they are not able to relate to the others how exactly what they did.
We are going to break it down and analyze their strengths. From there, we will absorb it as ours. Good deal huh?
Be patient –
With Best regards,
BJ
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
What do women really want? ( Part 3)
Generally, Woman want a man in whom she can Trust and respect.
She wants to be loved, and she wants to be loved intimately.
To a Woman, SEX is a submission to her Man's tenderness and his love for her.
She must feel secure in her Mate's love that is true to her and her alone. Then she will be willingly and gladly submits to him physically.
The Wise men are thoughtful about the fact that even thought they maybe aroused physically, his woman may not be aroused or turned on in such a manner.
I Remembered this quote " If a guy does not express love to his woman in the day, then forget about your woman expressing love to you at night "
Woman needs encouragement and the feeling of being love and appreciated.
Things to do (Guys):
* Compliment them, even it's the slightest thing that she has done for you.
* Come on, it doesn't cost too much just to open your mouth right? by that I don't open your mouth and say nothing ...Duhz.
* Tell her how wonderful she is and what a fine contribution she has made to your life.
* Keynote: Don't Fake it, say it from the bottom of your heart. (Their feelers can tell even if there is a 0.01 percent of fako and any lies in it)
- BJ
She wants to be loved, and she wants to be loved intimately.
To a Woman, SEX is a submission to her Man's tenderness and his love for her.
She must feel secure in her Mate's love that is true to her and her alone. Then she will be willingly and gladly submits to him physically.
The Wise men are thoughtful about the fact that even thought they maybe aroused physically, his woman may not be aroused or turned on in such a manner.
I Remembered this quote " If a guy does not express love to his woman in the day, then forget about your woman expressing love to you at night "
Woman needs encouragement and the feeling of being love and appreciated.
Things to do (Guys):
* Compliment them, even it's the slightest thing that she has done for you.
* Come on, it doesn't cost too much just to open your mouth right? by that I don't open your mouth and say nothing ...Duhz.
* Tell her how wonderful she is and what a fine contribution she has made to your life.
* Keynote: Don't Fake it, say it from the bottom of your heart. (Their feelers can tell even if there is a 0.01 percent of fako and any lies in it)
- BJ
What do women really want? ( Part 2)
If you ask a woman the above questions, they will give you 1001 answers. Well if you get a lady who is really helpful she will tell you her whole story. (Caution it may take 40hours at least)
It is because different woman are pursuing different things.
Some go for looks, financial security, starting an own family ...etc. Better stop here, or not too long-winded.
We once did a project on this and had some awesome findings. We will post it up soon. And we found there too many answers to those Questions. Many hilarious ones too!! Some choose to draw it out. Creative. Nice work.
Of course, there is obvious one, which a goon will even recite them to you. (Yes, you bet, they read alot of self-help books on it and all the men’s' , female's advice forum on the topic)
The truth is that most of the woman is unable to articulate what they are really looking for. (This is true among ladies from ranging from 3- 43)
Every Woman was brought up knowing exactly the way it would make her feel to have someone special and have the ideal man.
Oh Yes, It is that Feeling that she must experience when a handsome stranger sweeps her off her feet.
A Woman does not choose a man because of who he is, she choose him because of how it makes her feel.
Think about it and feel what I just shared.
- BJ
It is because different woman are pursuing different things.
Some go for looks, financial security, starting an own family ...etc. Better stop here, or not too long-winded.
We once did a project on this and had some awesome findings. We will post it up soon. And we found there too many answers to those Questions. Many hilarious ones too!! Some choose to draw it out. Creative. Nice work.
Of course, there is obvious one, which a goon will even recite them to you. (Yes, you bet, they read alot of self-help books on it and all the men’s' , female's advice forum on the topic)
The truth is that most of the woman is unable to articulate what they are really looking for. (This is true among ladies from ranging from 3- 43)
Every Woman was brought up knowing exactly the way it would make her feel to have someone special and have the ideal man.
Oh Yes, It is that Feeling that she must experience when a handsome stranger sweeps her off her feet.
A Woman does not choose a man because of who he is, she choose him because of how it makes her feel.
Think about it and feel what I just shared.
- BJ
What do women really want? ( Part 1)
This is a very big question to ask. It has been a mystery for centuries. Those who found it kept them deep and were unwilling to share, for this Gem is priceless.
Many Men have attempted to answer it and some ventured into this deep adventure and many Brave warriors have risked their lives for us to bring out this truth.
Other simply just accept that Woman cannot be known. That was a lame excuse by Man and surprisingly woman buy that idea too. Maybe they are disappointed but deep down they wish that Men at least take the effort to find out.
We are standing on the shoulders of our dear brothers and looking into something new in this generation. Let's Explore !
- BJ
Many Men have attempted to answer it and some ventured into this deep adventure and many Brave warriors have risked their lives for us to bring out this truth.
Other simply just accept that Woman cannot be known. That was a lame excuse by Man and surprisingly woman buy that idea too. Maybe they are disappointed but deep down they wish that Men at least take the effort to find out.
We are standing on the shoulders of our dear brothers and looking into something new in this generation. Let's Explore !
- BJ
Introduction - Must Read but at your own Risk !
Who are we and where are we heading?
A group of brothers were talking about our dating experiences over our meals, and yes we have this crazy idea to pen down and consolidate all the precious life lessons we learned (gained through countless trial and error, tears and blunders), But life was very good to us, all of us are blessed with the very special person in our lives.
Yes, you heard us; we have been through the lowest valley and the peak of our dating lives. We enjoyed the moments and the process of getting there with style.No matter who you are, over dated, under dated or never been in a date before (the last category, call our number ASAP!)
You will find something useful in helping you find your soul mate, or get a date or dates. Or close the deal to get married (the list goes on etc.)
We, the Tightnutz bros will help you unscrew your situation and extend our helping hands to you.Yes, We understand your situation, cos all of us been there sometime in our lives. Time to shake it off your back and arise and Kick Ass my friend!!
Yes, We care
Tight Nuts Brothers.
A group of brothers were talking about our dating experiences over our meals, and yes we have this crazy idea to pen down and consolidate all the precious life lessons we learned (gained through countless trial and error, tears and blunders), But life was very good to us, all of us are blessed with the very special person in our lives.
Yes, you heard us; we have been through the lowest valley and the peak of our dating lives. We enjoyed the moments and the process of getting there with style.No matter who you are, over dated, under dated or never been in a date before (the last category, call our number ASAP!)
You will find something useful in helping you find your soul mate, or get a date or dates. Or close the deal to get married (the list goes on etc.)
We, the Tightnutz bros will help you unscrew your situation and extend our helping hands to you.Yes, We understand your situation, cos all of us been there sometime in our lives. Time to shake it off your back and arise and Kick Ass my friend!!
Yes, We care
Tight Nuts Brothers.
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